Risk taking behavior is often a result of the influence of
the teen’s peer group, or dependent on the individual’s state of growth and
development. For example, young girls who are maturing more quickly than their
peers often have a negative self-image and are more likely to act according to
the way they look instead of their age, placing them at a higher risk for
making choices that could potentially put them in danger. In Michael D.
Lemonick’s article, “Teens before their Time” he notes that sexual harassment,
sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy are only the obvious difficulties
in this premature development. There is also an immense amount of social and
emotional pressure that weighs too heavy for a child, forcing them to grow up
before their time.
Even though there is not a lot we can do to reverse this
early maturation in females, we can still treat them as the young girls they
are and also educate them as to what is going on with their bodies, and how to
combat potential threats that they may experience. Kids and teenagers will
always take risks, as we have learned, it is a part of their wiring and
developmental stage. We can, however, continue to educate them about safety in
sexuality and drugs. D.A.R.E. does not work, because it teaches kids about all
the different kinds of drugs they can try, and then tells them not to do it. I
do think education against drugs should include the message “don’t do it”, but
like teaching abstinence from sex, it’s not likely to be effective. Safety
cautions should be included such as the dangers of sharing needles, overdosing,
and the potential long term effects. In my opinion, sexuality education cannot
begin too young and should be combined with tools on how to love and respect
yourself and your body.
It's interesting how adults integrate their influence in teenagers lives, and how we measure the impact of those influences. It seems we've already accepted that there are going to be mistakes made. Teenagers are literally programed for it.
ReplyDeleteSo what exactly do we do to lure them into the right path? Authoritarian styles might completely shut out their potential to get into danger, but that also could shut out their potential to grow and establish independence. It seems that communicating and getting involved in a passive or semi-assertive way is the best, and education falls right into that category.
When teaching your teens about drugs and sex, you aren't necessarily putting chains on them with their actions, you are guiding them in the right direction.
It says, “You have the right and freedom to make your own choices” but at the same time educates them on some of the consequences of those choices.
Completely shutting a teen out from experiences, like I mentioned, could potentially make them act out even more violently and with less rationality than before.
Don't get me wrong, there are certain situations that need absolute intervention of authority in potentially dangerous situations—I'm more talking about a general attitude of approach in your relationship with your teen.
I agree with you on guiding them in the right(healthy) direction but letting them make the call. Trying to have more control over a teenager may as well be a repellent...it only pushes them away. I think if you can be open with your teen it can be the most optimal, that way if they have a question about something they're not sure of, at least they feel comfortable coming to the parent about it before trying it out for themselves.
DeleteI once watched a sermon on sexuality and how to education your kids (or if you're a kid, like me, how to be educated. It was a long series) about sex. I personally think that it is possible to educate children TOO young, because you can't try to explain reproduction to a 2-year-old and still have them understand, or even remember, what you mean. There's a statistic in America that states by the time a child reaches 11, they have already found out by some means what sex is or looks like. I think this is partially due to the media and all the trash that's out there for kids to watch (subconsciously or not). Most of the time kids don't find out about sex from their parents, but from something they've watched/seen or from a peer. I think this is backwards, and i also think that a lot of parents are afraid to talk about sex with their kids, because they're scared if they tell them about it, they'll go out and do it and all sorts of bad stuff will happen. Wrong again. If you DON'T tell your kid about it and they learn it somewhere else, and that source doesn't tell them the consequences of their actions, the poop will hit the fan.
ReplyDeleteYes, there is such thing as TOO young...I think I was 9 when my mom had the "talk" with me, and at that point it was all pretty new to me. I really didn't have much exposure to media when I was a kid though, and I can't imagine what it's like to be way ahead of your chronological age concerning sexuality.
DeleteIt is a parents job to educate their children ,when it comes to risky behaviors, and the consequences, but the problem is that most parent are not sure at what age is appropriate. Some kids are not going to participate in risky behavior, but on the other hand some 10,11, and 12 year olds do. The younger ones that do participate, is it because they were not educated , or because they were ? I don't know what the right answer is, because both educated and uneducated teens take part in risky behavior, and some just don't participate in any of it.
ReplyDeleteWhat's funny is that these days if a kid hears something about a blowjob and doesn't know what it is, all they have to do is go search the internet and find out what it is. Parents may have a hard time finding what age is appropriate but if they are connected with their kids and have an open dialogue, hopefully they can answer questions as they come through. The younger ones that participate I think were either informed by their parents and not told that sex is something that should ideally take place when there is love involved (including loving yourself), or informed by their peers and it can become kind of a "how far have you gone" sort of competetive thing.
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